What’s the difference? Slave vs Submissive?

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March 7, 2015 by jayce428

Even though I may use the terms slave and submissive interchangeably there is a fundamental difference between being a slave and a submissive in a D/s relationship.

What is a slave?

A slave is a person who has devoted themselves to another person in a 24/7 D/s relationship, usually it’s 24/7 but can be modified depending on the situation. The idea is to assure their Master’s well being and do everything that is requested of their Master. A slave will also have limits that will be acknowledged when a contract is drawn up, it’s detrimental that you have agreed to a safe-word and know each others limits.

Your rights as a slave are what is decided when you and your potential Master are drawing up a contract and it’s not something to take lightly. Many view the action of becoming a slave and having your new Master collar you the same (or similar) as a marriage.

You only get into a Master/slave relationship with someone you trust, and know that they are going to do what’s in your best interest (this goes for Masters and slaves). When someone becomes a slave they’ve relinquished certain facets of their life to another person, who more then likely will take control very quickly – they might manage your finances, your diet, and even where you go. But every order that they give is for the benefit of the slave and you have to do things that benefit your Master in return.

What is a submissive?

A submissive is a person who might not be tied to one person, and might only be active when they’re playing – which might be when they pull out the flogger in the bedroom, or when they go to a open dungeon with other people. This might be a person who has a D/s relationship but are not active 24/7, and instead lead a vanilla dating or marriage life.

You obviously need to discuss what is going to happen and what is NOT going to happen during play or during a scene. As well as, the safe-word which is an important facet to any D/s relationship.

Anything Else?

Well… Another important thing to remember that you can’t just go up to someone, and start whipping them without their consent – everything about these roles are based upon consent from everyone involved.


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