Concern about Misogyny in the BDSM Community

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December 28, 2014 by jayce428

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mi·sog·y·ny

(mĭ-sŏj′ə-nē)

n.

hatred, dislike, or mistrust of women, or prejudice against women.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/misogyny

For the propose of clarifying I’m not a ‘feminist’ I am a modern humanist. The reason it’s important to clarify is because it seems that some of those who label themselves ‘feminists’ have a tendency believe that females are better then males, and the continue to create more of a problem instead of solving it.

Modern Humanism, also called Naturalistic Humanism, Scientific Humanism, Ethical Humanism, and Democratic Humanism, is defined by one of its leading proponents, Corliss Lamont, as “a naturalistic philosophy that rejects all supernaturalism and relies primarily upon reason and science, democracy and human compassion.” Modern Humanism has a dual origin, both secular and religious, and these constitute its sub-categories.

http://americanhumanist.org/Humanism/What_is_Humanism

I don’t view one gender (mental) or sex (physical) greater then the other or any of the identities (ex. genderqueer or agender) less important or superior any other.

I assume that the misunderstanding comes when a, usually male Dominant, communicates the fact that he believes himself to be superior then his female slaves/submissives. As a pet or submissive I usually feel that I am more in control then my Master, because in more cases then not the submissive is the one to stop a scene. This is not to say that the Dominant/Master doesn’t have stop the scene, but it seems a less likely scenario and has happens fewer times.

These ones are usually pretty easy to spot. They treat all women as “natural” submissives, sometimes with a lengthy and elaborate rationalization from pop evolutionary psychology. They fancy the notion of seeing two women getting it on, as long as there are no other guys involved (because as we all know, sex between women doesn’t “really” count).

https://www.xeromag.com/fvbdfolks.html

I don’t want someone coming into BDSM thinking that females are automatically submissives and males are the Master’s of the world, but I also don’t want people believing that a nude female submissive makes the Master a misogynist. Nudity isn’t synonyms to porn, instead think of porn as context when you’re looking for it you’ll find it, and a submissive being nude doesn’t make them shameful or insecure.

This is crucial since we want to reinforce that female submissives are strong individuals and they aren’t being taken advantage of, but unfortunately some are and that’s a problem that is difficult to solve in one lifetime.

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