November 14, 2014 by jayce428
Fantasies are a great way to explore what you might be into and that shouldn’t scare you – if you don’t feel safe practicing something different then you need to evaluate why you don’t feel safe doing so.
I would say experiment with your sexual fantasies, just start light and you might find out you weren’t into it, or you are into it and would like in incorporate that into your sex life with partner or yourself. And as you get more into it you can if you want increase the intensity gradually, which the increase of grades might be the actual fear. The fear that sexual acts with escalate is not a rational fear, if you’re having adult vanilla sex it’s rather boring, but adding a blindfold and crop just spices things up.
When I started out I had a fantasy about being bent over the kitchen counter and spanked with a wooden spoon, and loved the hell out of it and have incorporated that into my life. The BDSM part of my life does encroach into my normal life, like with this blog, but it hasn’t taken over my entire life. But it’s not something you should be ashamed of, and if the subject does come up in a conversation just be cool and answer honestly. Yeah, you might get someone saying: ‘that’s weird’ or ‘eww’, but if your confident about it it’s not going to faze you, or you might get offended which should be natural.
There shouldn’t be any fear getting ‘too into’ BDSM because what happens in the bedroom should between you and your partner or yourself.
The thing that bothers me is when people are concerned that BDSM will some how take over your life, wouldn’t you think that sex would envelop your life if this concept applied to everything?